This article was created in collaboration with Tecovas
Each year, the self-help book industry in the United States generates over $10 billion in annual sales. It's a lucrative business based on the simple premise that someone else figured life out and we're willing to pay a premium for their secrets. The genre may be known as self-help, but most readers don't care; They're just looking for someone to make their lives easier.
What I'm about to say may contradict a billion-dollar industry, but the reality is that there are no secrets, no hacks, and no shortcuts. In fact, no one has life figured it out - least of all me. As a former reconnaissance soldier, scout sniper, and retired US Navy SEAL officer, I've learned firsthand that being a better man and learning to walk taller isn't easy, but it is. It takes dedication and hard work, not secrets.
I call this the Everyday Warrior concept - an uncompromising, practical approach to living a fulfilling life built on a foundation of impact and purpose. To kick-start your journey, I suggest following these three essential tips – putting your health first, learning to listen, and dressing appropriately. Learn to master this trio, and you'll walk taller and more confident—not because you've uncovered some hidden secret, but because you've earned that confidence through hard work.
1. Prioritize your health for long-term dividends
It's no secret that regular exercise and a healthy diet are the cornerstones of maintaining physical, mental, and spiritual fitness. Your health is your top priority, but your lifestyle affects more than just your own biometrics. It affects your whole family. When you model healthy behaviors by treating self-care as a lifestyle rather than a duty, living an active life and eating healthy will no longer be just what your family does, but a part of who they are.
Instead of hanging out around electronics with the family, get outside with your kids. Find local trails for hiking and mountain biking, or play sports. It will naturally strengthen your bond as a family and also instill confidence in your children.
2. Listen before you speak
Here's a simple rule: talk less and listen more. The most confident men in the world don't brag or speak loudly, they don't dominate the conversation, and they don't seek validation in the approval of others. They are comfortable with who they are and don't have to prove anything.
In social situations, this means prioritizing quality conversations with a select few. You'll find that confident men actively listen to what others are saying and then ask appealing follow-up questions rather than bragging about themselves. True leaders not only understand the power of listening - they live by it.
Learn to listen and people will respect you; They will see you as a man who is trustworthy and dependable. Perfecting this skill takes time and energy, but you will see positive results immediately.
3. Dress the part
When you dress well, you feel good, and when you feel good, go a little taller. Let's be honest, have you ever seen a well-dressed man who didn't exude confidence? I sure haven't. It's not about wearing expensive designer brands or chasing trends; It's about being yourself and wearing what makes you feel good.
For some people, this may mean a well-fitting suit and french cuffs, while others may be most comfortable in dark wash jeans, a clean t-shirt and a pair of perfectly broken-in Tecovas cowboy boots. Dressing up the part may help you stand a little taller, but confidence is all up to you.
Subscribe to YouTube for access to exclusive gear videos, celebrity interviews and more!