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The best thing about sex is how personal yet versatile it is. Everyone has their favorite sex positions, kinks, and sexual fantasies. The best sex positions for women aren't always in alignment with those of men, but there’s always room for experimentation and growth.
“New sex positions can give partners an opportunity for adventure and play, which can alone heighten pleasure and intimacy in the relationship,” says Megwyn White, certified sexologist and director of education at Satisfyer. “Exploring different sex positions can also help couples discover new erogenous zones, foster open communication, better understand each other's desires and preferences in the bedroom, and deepen intimacy.”
So, what kinds of sexual situations require new positions? It’s not like you need to pull out all the bells, whistles, and acrobatics for your wedding night or Valentine's Day. In general, new sex positions can help couples spice up their sex life as well as target more pressing issues like immobility, pain, discomfort, and/or body insecurities to find more comfortable ways to enjoy sex together, advises White. In more specific scenarios, different sex positions might be required when a partner becomes pregnant or injured.
“Fun sex positions help bring out a more creative and primal aspect of your sexual relationship,” says White, who points to role play and BDSM, which can help tap into these fantasies or bucket list sexual experiences.
Shower sex positions are a great way to bring the heat to your sex life.
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On that note, what's your sexual bucket list? If you don't have one—or at least one in your head—think about it and make a list of all the sex acts you want to try in your lifetime, suggests Searah Deysach, sex educator and owner of sex shop Early to Bed. Just like a travel bucket list you want to “check off”—these lists can be fun to share with your partner. Deysach says to make your own, then compare to see what items overlap. The following list of different sex positions should help inspire some new ideas.
From leaving the bedroom behind for shower sex positions to exploring what oral sex positions work best for your giving and receiving needs, we've assembled a list of the 50 best sex positions to try with pro tips to maximize pleasure (e.g. best lube and cock rings).
Best Sex Positions: Classic, Tried-and-True Moves
The best sex positions don’t have to be overcomplicated or new; sometimes perfecting the classics is all you need to reach a triumphant climax.
1. Missionary
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Why It Works
“Missionary position has a rap for being boring, but I think it’s one of the most intimate positions,” says Searah Deysach, sex educator and owner of Early to Bed sex shop. There’s opportunity for direct eye contact, dirty talk, deep kissing, and full-body contact. In fact, that direct body contact and constant clitoral stimulation is the reason why it's among the best sex positions.
How to Do It
The receiving partner lies on their back with legs spread while the penetrative partner lies on top of them. This lends itself to more intense thrusting with relative ease and you can easily add a cock ring.
Pro Tip
Penis-owners will benefit from a basic cock ring, but to double the pleasure of penile-vaginal sex, opt for a dual-motor cock ring like Hot Octopuss Atom Plus. One motor vibes against the perineum, while the other stimulates the clitoris. You'll never find Missionary boring with this buzzy addition.
2. Cowgirl
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Why It Works
The best sex positions are standbys for their versatility and success rate. Cowgirl is known for being pleasurable and customizable, especially for the rider (aka vulva-owner) whose up and down movement stimulates the G-spot for an intense orgasm.
How to Do It
The penetrating partner lies down with legs extended while the receiving partner straddles them with knees bent. The receiving partner can lean forward for more clitoral stimulation as they gyrate their hips or bounce up and down. Conversely, they or the penetrative partner can use their hand or a vibrator for manual stimulation of the clitoris.
Pro Tip
Use a vibrator such as the Satisfyer Double Joy, which is placed both inside and outside, adding pleasure for the clitoris, G-Spot, and penis, explains White.
3. The Champagne Room
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Why It Works
The receiving partner is able to control the depth and speed of vaginal or anal penetration. “Plus, it allows them to really feel themselves,” says Deysach. “The person on top can grind and dance.” This is one of the best sex positions, but it's also a great way to engage in foreplay before any penetration begins.
How to Do It
The penetrative partner sits in an armless chair, or on the edge of a bed or couch, then guides the receiving partner onto their penis or strap-on. The receiving partner is completely in control to bob up and down using their legs or gyrate in a more circular motion.
4. Bed’s Edge
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Why It Works
This position allows for more power in the thrusting, explains Deysach, all with the pleasure of unobstructed sightlines. Communicate with one another as this position encourages deep penetration and can become uncomfortable for vulva-owners if their partner is well-endowed.
How to Do It
The receiver lies on their back with hips at the edge of the bed. The penetrative partner stands at the end of the bed, then guides their partner's legs to rest up against their torso as they insert their penis or strap-on. The receiving partner can shift their hips to control what angle feels best.
Pro Tip
“The vulva-owner can stimulate their clit manually or with a vibe, and wrap their legs around the standee if they want to bring them in real close,” adds Deysach. Get more clitoral stimulation with Screaming O Charged Combo Kit. It comes with a bullet vibrator, finger sleeve, and a cock ring.
5. Doggy Style
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Why It Works
Ideal for G-spot stimulation, doggy style allows both partners to use their hands to stimulate the vulva-owner's erogenous zones, says White. It's one of the best sex positions because it allows you to tap into your more animalistic side.
How to Do It
The receiving partner arranges themself on all fours while the penetrating partner kneels behind them. For extra support, the penetrating partner can place their hands on their partner’s hips, suggests White.
Pro Tip
If you want to spice it up further, White says, “position yourselves in front of a mirror so you and your partner can make eye contact.” You can also incorporate a vibrator that's slim, long, and minimal so the vulva-owner can reach down and provide clitoral stimulation. We like to use an external vibrator like Maude Vibe Personal Massager & Vibrator. The smooth silicone vibe doesn't have any bells and whistles that can become distracting—plus the motor is surprisingly powerful and has three different vibration settings.
Fun and Different Sex Positions
Different sex positions shake up dry spells and are a great way to explore your partner’s desires in a new way. Maybe you’ll find a new favorite—or just learn a different sex position to add to your lineup.
6. Recliner
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Why It Works
Simply put, different sex positions like this add more play to your sex life, says Rachel Overvoll, somatic sex coach at Modern Intimacy.
How to Do It
The penetrative partner lies down with feet planted and knees bent, while the receiving partner straddles them and leans back on their bent knees like a recliner. This is the perfect extension from foreplay into different sex positions. Because the vulva-owner is on full display, they can touch themself, or simply sit back while their partner caresses their legs, massages their breasts, and stimulates their clit before sliding in their penis or strap-on.
Pro Tip
Use an unscented, dual-purpose massage oil like Maude Full Body Massage Oil if you intend to do a full-body rub-down. For use during Recliner, try Bijoux Indiscrets Finger Play Gel. As its name suggests, this water-based lube is specifically designed for hand sex—to turn yourself and/or your partner on. The gel contains aloe vera, which naturally nourishes and hydrates skin.
7. Standing Wheelbarrow
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Why It Works
It’s a little more advanced, but for those looking to experiment with different sex positions, this will create a strong prostate orgasm for men engaging in anal sex or intense G-spot stimulation for vulva-owners.
How to Do It
The receiving partner assumes a downward-facing dog pose. While standing, the penetrating partner lifts the receiving partner’s legs off the ground, one at a time, wrapping them around their waist, then inserts their penis or strap-on.
Pro Tip
This requires a fair amount of shoulder and arm strength for the receiving partner, so keep a chair nearby or do this by the bed so the standing partner can sit. You’ll still get deep penetration, but it’s not as physically taxing.
8. Bridge
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Why It Works
Different sex positions typically demand a bit more physicality. Bridge requires some stamina and strength, White prefaces, but allows for a great view of the bottom partner.
How to Do It
The vulva-owner lies on their back and bridges their hips up. The penetrating partner kneels between the receiving partner's legs and uses their hands to support their partner’s weight by gripping their hips or outer glutes while thrusting in and out, explains White.
Pro Tip
“To make this position slightly easier on the receiving partner, you may pile pillows underneath their back for support,” White says. We suggest getting a versatile sex pillow like Liberator Flip Ramp Sex Positioning Pillow. It's more substantial in size than wedges.
9. Spork
Katie Buckleitner
Why It Works
“This position allows space for the vulva-owner to pleasure themself by utilizing their fingers or a toy on the clitoris while their partner's inside them,” says Raquel VanLoon, LCPC, CADC, CSAT-candidate, clinical associate at Modern Intimacy. Fun sex positions like this side-step the routine couples fall into and bring more spontaneity into the picture.
How to Do It
The penetrative partner lies on their right side, leaning on right arm, with legs positioned like an open clamshell: Right leg bent against the bed and left leg bent at the knee with foot planted in front of the other ankle. The vulva-owner lies perpendicular to their partner and splays their legs. The right leg can rest against their partner’s shin or on the bed while the left drapes over their partner’s shoulder. The penetrating partner can hold onto this leg and use it for leverage as they insert their penis or strap-on. This position doesn’t allow for vigorous thrusting; it’s more about gyrating.
10. Open Book
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Why It Works
A riff on Missionary, Open Book “is great for couples who get turned on by visuals and for those looking to incorporate sexual wellness devices into their sex life,” White says. This checks all the boxes as far as fun sex positions go.
How to Do It
Before you start, both partners should stretch and focus on opening their hips to maximize mobility and flexibility for Open Book. The receiving partner lies on their back with legs open wide like a "V", while the penetrating partner kneels between their legs and holds their ankles for stability as they insert their penis or strap-on.
Pro Tip
Take advantage of how exposed the vulva-owner is in this position. Their hands are free to stimulate their clitoris or other erogenous zones with fingers or a device, such as Satisfyer Pro 2 Generation 3, White explains. It's a clitoral-sucking toy that mimics oral sex.
Standing Sex Positions
Sometimes you don’t need the bed. Standing sex positions are an easy way to switch up your sex routine and scene—from the kitchen to the living room and beyond.
11. Barstool
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Why It Works
Standing sex positions like this—where one partner is supported on a barstool—allows for deep penetration and comfort. Neither partner needs “to hold themself in a challenging position,” says Mike Johnson, co-host of "Your Mileage May Vary" sex and relationship podcast.
How to Do It
As the name suggests, this position requires a barstool or an equivalent piece of furniture. The receiving partner sits on the back edge of the stool and leans forward toward a counter or table so they can grip the edges for support. The penetrative partner stands directly behind so they can penetrate with easy access to the vulva or anus.
Pro Tip
Place a folded towel on the barstool to create a cushion for greater comfort and easy cleanup.
12. Standing Oral Sex
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Why It Works
Typically this standing sex position has been depicted in films where the male receives and the female gives. But when a male partner performs oral sex on a female while standing, "it bends typical gender roles, offers a great view, and gives access to new angles to stimulate,” says Dr. Rossana Sida, LMFT, Psy.D, CST, sex and relationship therapist. Of course this is a great standing position for same-sex couples as well.
How to Do It
The giver kneels down before the receiving partner and has them stand with their legs wide or with one leg propped up on a step, elevated surface, or even up and over the kneeling partner's shoulder.
Pro Tip
Do this against a wall for greater support and balance.
13. Leg Up
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Why It Works
This standing sex position permits both partners to “take advantage of full-body skin contact, gazing, and four free hands to wander across one another’s bodies,” says Jess O’Reilly, Ph.D., sexologist and host of "Sex With Dr. Jess" podcast.
How to Do It
Stand facing one another next to a bed, chair, or ottoman, suggests O’Reilly. The receiving partner bends a leg and places their foot on the elevated surface while the penetrative partner slides inside.
Pro Tip
To heighten this standing sex position and help create greater clitoral stimulation for vulva-owners, use a vibrating cock ring like Romp Juke Light Blue.
14. Mermaid
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Why It Works
This offers an opportunity for deep penetration and visual appeal. Because the vulva-owner's legs are pressed together, it creates a tighter fit, heightening the sensation if the partner's penis is a bit smaller.
How to Do It
The receiving partner lies on their back at the edge of the bed—or dining room table for a sense of spontaneity—with their legs straight in the air, legs pressed together as if mimicking the tail of a mermaid. The penetrating partner will then stand behind their legs to enter. If the receiving partner gets fatigued holding their legs together, their partner can assist with their hands.
Pro Tip
“To level this position up and change the angle of penetration, place a pillow under the receiving partner,” White says. Try the Dame Pillow. The wedge is more discreet in size and fits easily under the hips. We love that the foam is dense, so you feel supported and lifted—not like you're sinking.
15. Eiffel Tower
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Why It Works
This standing sex position allows rear entry, which is stimulating for both anal and vaginal penetration.
How to Do It
The penetrating partner stands directly behind the receiving partner who's bent over at the waist with their hands on the ground, explains White. You're replicating the iconic shape of France’s Eiffel Tower monument in all its shining glory.
Oral Sex Positions
Oral sex positions are stimulating for both the giver and the receiver. Lean into these positions to ensure you’re making the most of this hyper-sexual, multi-stimulating act—either as a precursor to sex or as the main show.
16. Giraffe
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Why It Works
This oral sex position is exciting for both exhibitionists and voyeurs, and can be performed regardless of gender, says O’Reilly.
How to Do It
The giving partner lies on their back with their head hanging off one side of the bed. The receiving partner stands on the floor beside the bed and maneuvers themself toward their partner’s mouth. Allow the supine partner to control the depth, angle, and speed of penetration for comfort.
Pro Tip
This position is a great time to try deep throating, as it allows the giver to elongate their neck, O’Reilly adds. Just remember to go slowly and pay attention to the giving partner's cues to ensure comfort throughout.
17. The Milking Table
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Why It Works
Oral sex positions that dare to stray from de rigueur can do wonders for shaking up your sex life and confidence. The Milking Table is a fun sex position for couples who want to do something more erotic. When the penis-owner reaches orgasm and ejaculates, the partner giving oral sex can swallow or allow it to fall on their body, says Johnson.
How to Do It
The penis-owner lies face down on a milking table—a folding table similar to a massage table with a cut-out from which the penis will hang—or a DIY setup. If your couch has a chaise lounge, place an ottoman a few feet away so the partner giving oral sex can sit or lie down between the items and underneath their partner's body. (You can also mimic this setup in the bedroom if your couch is too low to the ground.) The key here is the receiving partner needs their body and legs to be supported so they can fully relax. Once you've got the configuration right, the giving partner can pleasure from below, orally and manually, says Johnson.
Pro Tip
If you want to invest in sex furniture, try Master Series Extreme Bondage Milking Table. This will enable you to give your partner an erotic full-body massage that leads to manual and oral sex.
18. Take A Seat
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Why It Works
Some oral sex positions can make people self-conscious. The first part in making someone feel comfortable is ensuring they're physically comfortable and not having to hold or contort their body in a strange way while receiving oral sex. Seated oral sex is a straightforward, comfortable position for the receiver who simply rests on a bed or chair, says O’Reilly.
How to Do It
The receiving partner sits on a dining room, armchair, or couch (anything with back support) while the giving partner kneels before them and performs oral sex.
Pro Tip
When giving oral sex, don't do so begrudgingly. Or at least don't let your partner feel like that's what you're doing. The act is more enjoyable for all parties involved when there's no pressure or anxiety over duration and the act itself.
19. 69 Spooning
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Why It Works
We all know 69 is one of the most traditional oral sex positions, but some people get insecure about their entire weight being pressed against the bottom partner. This variation eliminates that potential discomfort.
How to Do It
Lie on your sides facing one another, positioned feet to head. Prop your hips and necks up with pillows for comfort as you enjoy giving and receiving simultaneously, says O’Reilly.
20. Face Sitting
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Why It Works
If you're with a new sexual partner, don't assume they don't enjoy giving or receiving oral sex. Some people worry about whether their partner enjoys going down on them, says Johnson. Approach sex with confidence and openness and odds are good your partner will reciprocate and feel more comfortable, too. Face sitting is one of the best oral sex positions once you get past any initial trepidation or awkwardness, because the vulva is on full display.
How to Do It
The giver lies on their back with their head on a pillow, while the receiving partner straddles their face. Position yourselves up by the bed's headboard or wall so the receiving partner can use it for added support and balance.
Pro Tip
Vulva-owners can adjust how wide they spread their legs and maximize—as well as direct—stimulation by rocking their pelvis back and forth and rubbing their clitoris against their partner's mouth and tongue. The giving partner can simultaneously reach up to fondle the butt or breasts, Johnson says.
Pregnancy Sex Positions
With hormones surging, pregnancy sex positions can really fire up a relationship, using the time as an opportunity to experiment rather than shy away from the changing body.
21. Doggy Style
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Why It Works
Doggy isn't just one of the best sex positions overall—it's especially good for pregnant women. During the late stages of pregnancy, the stomach might make other positions less doable, says Deysach. While doggy style can provide deep penetration, the receiving partner can control depth and speed.
How to Do It
The pregnant partner positions themselves on their hands and knees while being entered from behind.
Pro Tip
Heat things up by introducing weighted nipple clamps like Fifty Shades of Grey The Pinch Adjustable Nipple Clamps. The silver balls attached to the clamps create a pleasant tugging sensation in certain positions, like doggy style, culminating in a stronger orgasm.
22. Reverse Cowgirl
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Why It Works
This position leaves lots of room for the pregnant partner's stomach. Plus, it gives the partner on their back a great view from behind, says Deysach.
How to Do It
The penetrative partner lies on their back, while the pregnant partner sits on top of them, facing away, and slowly guides the penis or strap-on in. The “cowgirl” can play with depth and speed, kneeling slightly forward to give their partner a better view of their butt or leaning backward so they can play with the penetrative partner’s genitals.
23. Kneeling Dog
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Why It Works
Kneeling Dog is among the top pregnant sex positions when lying down becomes difficult or uncomfortable during later trimesters.
How to Do It
The pregnant partner gets on all fours, then brings their chest to the bed, driving their hips up. The penetrative partner kneels behind and enters.
Pro Tip
“This position allows easy access to include a sexual wellness device," White says. "A bullet vibrator, such as the Satisfyer Ultra Power Bullet 8, is great for this.” You can also add a position prop like a ramp under the pregnant person’s chest to make it more comfortable, Deysach says.
24. Spooning
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Why It Works
There’s something deeply sensual about spooning that often gets overlooked for the comfort this PG position provides. “It's like a snuggle with the added bonus of intercourse,” says Deysach. If the pregnant partner is often fatigued, this is one of the top pregnancy sex positions to do.
How to Do It
Lie down in bed in the spooning position (chest to back) with the pregnant person being penetrated from behind. For added access and comfort, the pregnant partner can bend and place their top leg up on the penetrative partner's outer thigh.
Pro Tip
Oil-based lubes can disrupt the pH balance and alter the microbiome, leading to bacterial vaginosis (aka BV). Likewise, it's best to avoid any lubes with flavors, parabens, and additives when pregnant. Instead, reach for a water- or aloe-based lubricant like Good Clean Love Almost Naked Personal Lubricant. “With a base of aloe vera (healing to vaginal tissues), agar (vegan gelatin substitute), and xanthan gum (thickener), this lube is cool, long-lasting, never sticky, and tastes like nothing,” says Taylor Sparks, holistic erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven.
25. On the Counter
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Why It Works
Kitchen counter sexual fantasies are hot. That doesn't have to be put on the back burner while pregnant. This pregnancy sex position is low-impact while still fulfilling erotic desires.
How to Do It
The pregnant partner sits on the edge of the counter atop some sort of cushioning, says Johnson (like a thick folded towel). The penetrative partner stands between their legs and helps guide their feet onto a step stool or chair, depending on the height of the counter, to provide support. Once comfortable, the penetrative partner can slowly thrust, building speed and depth.
Pro Tip
Have the pregnant partner lean back on their elbows, Johnson recommends. This position tightens the vagina around the penis. The penetrative partner can also stroke the clitoris while thrusting.
Shower Sex Positions
Shower sex positions may seem like they require too much coordination, but they can create a heightened state of arousal. That’s because any position is elevated by the change in temperature and pressure of water sliding against your skin. Hot and steamy sex is just a shower away.
26. Cold Hard Truth
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Why It Works
“The contrast of the warm water beading down your skin and the cold tiles heightens your body's sensual response,” says O’Reilly. This is one of the most effortless shower sex positions.
How to Do It
The receiving partner presses the front of their body flat against the wall as the penetrative partner stands and enters from behind.
Pro Tip
As with most shower sex, it’s a good idea to start with a silicone lube for the most pleasurable penetration, Sida says. Unlike water-based lubes, these won’t immediately wash away. We like Überlube Silicone Lubricant. It's unscented (read: flavorless), safe for vaginal and anal penetration, and comes with a hand pump for ease of use in the shower so you're less apt to drop it mid-romp. Just note you can't use silicone-based lubes with silicone sex toys.
27. Stand and Deliver
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Why It Works
Doggy style is a classic, but when you take it to the shower and have both partners standing, it adds a new level of stimulation.
How to Do It
The receiving partner bends at their hips and places their hands on the shower bench or floor, depending on flexibility. The penetrative partner enters from behind and controls the speed and depth of penetration. The penetrative partner can also hold onto the receiving partner's hands or wrists.
Pro Tip
Obviously shower sex positions can get slippery. Add lube and things can really get dicey. What we like about Astroglide X Silicone Based Sex Lube is its no-drip, stay-put formula. It's made with coconut oil and is hypoallergenic—perfect for those with sensitive skin.
28. Shower Dance
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Why It Works
A stool or shower seat lends greater control and stability, so you can heighten the sex appeal of a lap dance. This is a great sex position to do when traveling and staying in a hotel.
How to Do It
The penetrative partner sits on the shower seat, then guides the receiving partner onto their lap. The vulva-owner can face their partner or sit turned away, holding onto either side of the shower seat for stability. The vulva-owner can perform a lap dance before being fully penetrated by the partner's penis to finish them both off.
Pro Tip
Because the water from the shower head will wash away your natural lubrication, using a silicone lube like Maude Shine Silicone Lube will reduce friction and intensify the sensation from the lap dance as well as vaginal or anal penetration.
29. Standing Missionary
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Why It Works
Standing Missionary isn't revolutionary, but shower sex positions don't have to be for the sake of your orgasm (and safety). This is a great position because when you’re all sudsy, or taking advantage of lube. Your bodies will slide against each other, creating friction for a full-body orgasm.
How to Do It
Both partners face each other so when the penis or strap-on enters, it pulls both bodies together, which provides more stability and sensuality. The penetrative partner can also rest a foot on the shower seat or edge of the bath tub (if you're not in a walk-in shower) for added leverage.
Pro Tip
If the vulva-owner is struggling to get clitoral stimulation, bring a waterproof cock ring into the mix like Lelo Tor 2.
30. Tub Straddle
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Why It Works
This takes any potential clumsiness out of shower sex positions, but does require a specific tub circumference. You need a wide tub that's spacious enough for the vulva-owner to straddle the penetrative partner.
How to Do It
The penetrative partner lies down in the bathtub with their back against the end of the tub. The vulva-owner straddles them and guides the penis or strap-on for ease of entry. The partner on top can grip the edges of the tub or their partner's shoulders for support as they grind and gyrate, just like Cowgirl.
Pro Tip
Fill the tub up a bit so the motion of the grinding and thrusting splashes the water for added stimulation. You can also position the shower head to stream down on you both. Like the other shower sex positions, use a silicone-based lube, and invest in a bathtub cushion like AEROiVi Full Body Bath Pillow. This will ensure the straddling partner's knees don't get fatigued from the hard tub and the penetrative partner's head is supported by a pillow. There's an additional lumbar pillow that can be placed at the end of the tub so the penetrative partner can place their feet against for added leverage if the tub is extra-long.
Anal Sex Positions
The backdoor doesn't have to be taboo. Anal sex positions allow for deep penetration and tight sensations that yield intense orgasms.
31. Squatter
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Why It Works
Some people find squatting helps to relax their muscles and facilitate penetration, says O’Reilly, making Squatter one of the best anal sex positions for those newer to butt play.
How to Do It
The penetrative partner lies on their back as the receiving partner squats over them, facing them, with their hands against the headboard for support. This takes a bit of teamwork (and lube).
Pro Tip
“When you’re exploring the backdoor, you’ll absolutely need lube as the anus is not self-lubricating,” advises Daniel Saynt, founder and chief conspirator of The New Society for Wellness (NSFW), a sex- and cannabis-friendly private members club in NYC. Try a water-based lubricant like Lube Life Water-Based Personal Lubricant. It requires less re-application for an enduring sensual experience and easy cleanup.
32. Lap Dance
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Why It Works
We love Lap Dance, but especially as an anal sex position. The top partner can control the depth, pressure, angle, speed, and rhythm, according to their liking while the other enjoys the ride, says O’Reilly.
How to Do It
The penetrative partner kneels on the bed with the receiving partner on their lap, facing away, with legs astride. Because the receiving partner is also kneeling, they can control how slowly they lower their body on top of their partner’s penis or strap-on with lots of lube.
Pro Tip
The partner on top can use their hands or a vibrator for clitoral stimulation, and for pleasure and added support, the penetrative partner can wrap their hands around the receiving partner's breasts. If new to butt play, use Adam & Eve Booty Boot Camp Training Kit to ease your way into anal penetration. It comes with three anal plugs for beginners to level up from 4.5 inches to 6 inches. The tapered tip and suction cup base allow for ease of use. Just remember to use a water-based lube.
33. Legs Up
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Why It Works
“This position gives a lot of back door access and still maintains the intimacy of being able to look each other in the eye,” says Deysach.
How to Do It
The receiving partner lies down with their legs up in the air so the penetrative partner can kneel and place their hands on either side of them. The receiving partner can lift their hips and rest their calves against the penetrative partner's shoulders, which allows for deeper penetration as well as greater support. The receiving partner won't get fatigued having to hold their legs up on their own.
Pro Tip
Try a hybrid lube like Hello Cake Tush Cush, which features a water and silicone base for comfort and longevity. It won't dry out as quickly as other lubes and helps prevent any tearing.
34. Snake
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Why It Works
Because the receiving partner's chest is on the bed but hips are in the air, the angle provides a feeling of fullness. Moreover, since the hips are elevated off the bed, it's also easy to incorporate a vibrator.
How to Do It
The receiving partner gets on their knees and leans forward, placing their chest on the bed. The penetrative partner enters from behind. Once you get more comfortable with anal sex, the penetrative partner can increase the depth by leaning back and pulling the receiving partner’s hips up to draw them in deeper.
Pro Tip
As foreplay to this position, use an anal vibrator like We-Vibe Ditto+ Vibrating Butt Plug.
35. Lying Doggy
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Why It Works
Doggy style is the most traditional position for anal sex, but lying doggy creates more of a connection between partners, especially for first-timers.
How to Do It
The receiving partner lies on their stomach and the giver enters from behind while lying on top of them. As always, use lots of lube for easy insertion.
Pro Tip
“Oil-based lubricants are great enhancers for male masturbation and body massage as they're thick, slippery, and easily applied and dispersed,” says Natasha Marie, head of content and sexual wellness expert at MysteryVibe. They also last much longer so there's less of a need to re-apply. If you and your partner don't have vulvas (oil-based lubes can disrupt vaginal pH), try AH! YES OB Natural Plant Oil-Based Personal Lubricant. Just note oil-based lubricants are not compatible with latex condoms and can stain sheets, Marie says.
Plus Size Partner Sex Positions
Every body is different, which is what makes sex so exciting. These plus size partner sex positions ensure the best access and comfort for both partners.
36. Missionary With Wedge
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Why It Works
The lover on top can put weight on their arms and both partners get to share intimacy, says Deysach. For plus size sex positions, pillows and wedges are a great way to lift the hips of the receiving partner to create closer contact and better alignment for stimulation.
How to Do It
The receiving partner lies on their back with a sex pillow or wedge placed underneath their hips. The penetrative partner lies on top and enters.
Pro Tip
If you don't want a wedge or ramp that takes up a lot of space when not in use, get an inflatable pillow like NaEnsen Sex Toys Pillow Position Cushion Triangle Inflatable Ramp.
37. Cowgirl
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Why It Works
Cowgirl is one of the top plus size sex positions because it keeps distance between stomachs while giving access to the clitoris for a toy or hand to stimulate, says Sida.
How to Do It
The vulva-owner straddles the penetrative partner, using their knees, shins, and feet to support their weight and maintain balance as they ride.
Pro Tip
Sparks likes to use a lube like Good Clean Love BioNude Ultra Sensitive Lube, as it's water-based and pH-balanced with a plant cellulose base designed to emulate a woman's own natural lubrication.
38. Modified Doggy Style
Katie Buckleitner
Why It Works
This is a great plus size sex position to get deep penetration without feeling inhibited, says Deysach.
How to Do It
The receiving partner is on their knees but instead of using their wrists to keep their body elevated, they place a stack of pillows under their chest to rest on.
40. Scissors
Katie Buckleitner
Why It Works
While it seems challenging, this is actually one of the top plus size sex positions. Interlocking the legs provides a lot of contact and easy movement for both partners.
How to Do It
The receiving partner lies on their back. The penetrating partner lies on their right side, perpendicular to the receiving partner, and opens their legs like a clamshell: Right leg bent and resting against the bed, left leg bent at the knee with foot planted in front of the other ankle. From here, the vulva-owner can reach their right leg through the penetrative partner's legs and the left leg up against their shoulder. Both partners can adjust their positioning as the penetrative partner enters and uses the leg on their shoulder to pull themself close and gain leverage.
39. Supported Butterfly
Katie Buckleitner
Why It Works
Unlike weight-bearing plus size sex positions that can cause insecurities and make the sexual experience less enjoyable, Supported Butterfly keeps intimate contact that's fully supported.
How to Do It
The receiving partner scoots their body to the end of the bed so their butt is right at the edge. The penetrative partner stands at the bed's edge, then helps guide their partner's legs up their torso to rest the ankles on their shoulders.
Pro Tip
If more support is needed for the legs, the standing partner can also hold them while penetrating, Sida recommends.
Sex Positions for Deep Penetration
Sex positions for deep penetration better align your bodies for a greater feeling of fullness.
41. The Sphinx
Katie Buckleitner
Why It Works
“Since one partner is lying on top of the other, this position uses body weight to add intense pleasure to the G-spot or prostate,” says Overvoll. Sex positions for deep penetration ensure closeness, and this is as intimate as it gets.
How to Do It
The receiver lies down on their stomach, propped up on forearms, keeping one leg outstretched on the bed while the other is bent and splayed out. The penetrative partner climbs on top of the receiver and presses their body against their backside, entering from behind while supporting their weight with their arms.
42. Deep Doggy Style
Katie Buckleitner
Why It Works
The position produces more G-spot stimulation, since the penis or strap-on will naturally rub against the front wall of the vagina. And, because the giving partner is penetrating at an angle, they're less likely to push painfully against the cervix, Johnson says.
How to Do It
Stack a few pillows or a sex ramp on the bed so the receiving partner can get on all fours with their hips elevated. This hip angle makes it easier for the penis or strap-on to reach its full depth, Johnson says.
43. Folded Missionary
Katie Buckleitner
Why It Works
Folded Missionary is one of our favorite sex positions for deep penetration because the penetrative partner can thrust deeply, but also play with depth and edging, allowing both partners to relish the feeling of the head of the penis or strap-on penetrating the vulva-owner's lips, says Johnson.
How to Do It
The receiving partner lies on their back and raises their legs off the bed so the penetrative partner can position themself on top, planting their hands on either side of the vulva-owner's torso. The receiving partner can lift their hips up and rest their legs against their partner's shoulders or arms. The penetrative partner's arms and shoulders hold the vulva-owner's legs in place, giving them deep access and limiting shifting with each thrust, says Johnson.
44. Reverse Missionary
Katie Buckleitner
Why It Works
A twist on the classic, this targets G-spot and clitoral stimulation. While it's one of the top sex positions for deep penetration, Reverse Missionary also gives enough access to incorporate sex toys.
How to Do It
The penetrating partner lies on their back while the receiving partner lies on top. Both partners can grind their bodies together or take turns taking control.
Pro Tip
“Spice up this position by adding a cock ring, such as the Satisfyer Sniper Vibrating Cock Ring, which can enhance pleasure for both partners,” White says.
45. Sit-Off
Katie Buckleitner
Why It Works
It might not seem like this would be one of the best sex positions for deep penetration, but the full force of the partner sitting on top of the penis allows gravity to do its work.
How to Do It
The penetrating partner sits on the edge of a couch or bed and the vulva-owner sits on top of their penis or strap-on, facing them. The pull of gravity will have the vulva completely around the shaft. This is not a position where you can thrust in and out; the receiving partner can grind and get added clitoral stimulation.
Pro Tip
To heighten the sensation, add a vibrating cock ring with a water-based lube like Swiss Navy Premium Water Based Lube since silicone-based lubes can degrade the quality of silicone toys, says Kenneth Play, author of Beyond Satisfied: A Sex Hacker’s Guide to Endless Orgasms, Mind-Blowing Connection, and Lasting Confidence. You can also use coconut oil as an alternative, which works well for women with sensitive pH balances. Just note oil can break condoms, so if you’re using toys in tandem with a condomed partner, avoid oil-based anything.
Sex Positions for a Small Penis
Sex positions for a small penis are all about leveraging what you're working with.
46. Side Saddle
Katie Buckleitner
Why It Works
Sex positions for a small penis focus on creating a sensation of tightness, even if the penetration isn't that deep. In Side Saddle, the receiving partner may also find it increases clitoral stimulation, says Deysach.
How to Do It
The penetrating partner lies flat on their back and holds their penis or strap-on in place to help guide it into the receiving partner, who's perpendicular to their body with both legs on the same side of their torso (like riding side saddle on a horse). The vulva-owner will use their leg muscles to ride their partner, grinding in a circular motion or bouncing up and down (just be careful). The penetrative partner can raise their hips to match the movement.
47. Eagle Position
Katie Buckleitner
Why It Works
“If sex is most pleasurable for you lying on your back, this position is for you,” says White. It's one of the best sex positions for a small penis because you're getting as much penetration as possible with the added bonus of clitoral stimulation.
How to Do It
The receiving partner lies on their back with legs in the air “spread eagle,” about hip-width apart. The penetrating partner kneels before them and inserts their penis or strap-on, then plants their hands on the bed for support.
Pro Tip
To lend more good vibrations, use the We-Vibe Chorus during penile-vaginal intercourse. When inserted, it hits the G-spot internally and the clitoris externally, resulting in a stronger orgasm.
48. The Hook
Katie Buckleitner
Why It Works
With the legs out of the way, this allows for deeper penetration and lots of body contact, says Deysach.
How to Do It
The receiving partner lies on their back and raises their legs off the bed so the penetrative partner can position themself on top, planting their hands on either side of the vulva-owner's torso. The receiving partner can lift their hips up and rest their calves up and over their partner's shoulders.
49. Ankle Grab
Katie Buckleitner
Why It Works
Just like Happy Baby pose in yoga, this opens your hips and allows for a better position to get deeper. It's one of our favorite sex positions for a small penis.
How to Do It
The receiver lies on their back, legs in the air about hip-width apart, holding onto their ankles. The penetrating partner then inserts their penis with hands on the bed for stability.
Pro Tip
Marie recommends Pjur Aqua lube because of its silky-smooth texture and longevity. "Some water-based lubricants need re-application after skin-on-skin friction, but with the viscosity of this lubricant, you have a better chance at lasting for the duration of sexual activity without needing to re-apply," Marie says.
50. Butterfly
Katie Buckleitner
Why It Works
By keeping their hands under the receiver’s butt, the giver can adjust the height as needed to get the best angle for penetration, says Deysach.
How to Do It
Depending on the penetrative partner's height and the height of your bed, you can do this in one of two ways: In the first method, the receiving partner lies on their back at the edge of the bed and the giver stands at the foot of the bed. The penetrative partner then lifts the receiver’s legs on their shoulders and cups the receiver’s butt for support and easy access. In the second method, the receiving partner lies on their back on the bed with the penetrative partner kneeling before them. The vulva-owner then lifts one leg at a time onto the penetrative partner's shoulders and scoots their bodies together so the penetrative partner can hold their glutes for support.
Pro Tip
Use the Liberator Ramp to support the bottom partner's back to reduce fatigue for both partners.
Meet the Experts
- Megwyn White, certified sexologist and director of education at Satisfyer
- Searah Deysach, sex educator and owner of Early to Bed sex shop
- Rachel Overvoll, somatic sex coach at Modern Intimacy
- Raquel VanLoon, LCPC, CADC, CSAT-candidate, clinical associate at Modern Intimacy
- Mike Johnson, co-host of "Your Mileage May Vary" sex and relationship podcast
- Dr. Rossana Sida, LMFT, Psy.D, CST, sex and relationship therapist
- Jess O’Reilly, Ph.D., sexologist and host of "Sex With Dr. Jess" podcast
- Taylor Sparks, holistic erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven
- Daniel Saynt, founder and chief conspirator of The New Society for Wellness (NSFW), a sex- and cannabis-friendly private members club in NYC
- Natasha Marie, head of content and sexual wellness expert at MysteryVibe
- Kenneth Play, author of Beyond Satisfied: A Sex Hacker’s Guide to Endless Orgasms, Mind-Blowing Connection, and Lasting Confidence
